Boys and Girls can be friends.

Recently I've been back on the whole dating seen, why not I'm 22, it's fun to date and have a little fun.

And I recently went for a drink with a lovely guy, this was not a date! I repeat was NOT a date, we were simply meeting up for a casual drink as we were both free. It was lovely, had a couple of pints, walked back home lovely. Anyway, I got home, sat down, checked my phone and he'd text me... 'so would you like to be my girlfriend?'. Now don't get me wrong I was flattered, but I made it clear from the beginning that I did not like this person in this way. And then all hell broke lose. The texts read something like this:

'you bitch'

'why would you lead me on like that?'

you utter bitch, why would you go on a date with me' 

Okay, well those are just some of them. I replied nicely, and he continued with the abuse, and a lot of swearing. Bit uncalled for. It was hard to explain over text, and he wouldn't listen. but the best one he wrote:

'WHY DID YOU FRIEND-ZONE ME'

And that was it! I couldn't believe it! So, sooo angry! There is no such thing as friend-zoning, I am sorry that I do not find you attractive, we are great friends why does it have to be more than that? It really annoyed me. I simply asked if he rather I pretended to fancied him, lead him on and then a few months down the line dumb him? He didn't like that! But I feel that it was the right answer. I feel that I did the right thing. I did not lead anyone on, from the start I made it clear that we were friends and nothing more, and okay he liked me differently but that does not mean I have to feel the same. I am the one with my own feelings why should I change them to suit you? Please stop using the term 'friend-zone' as an excuse! You cannot control how others feel, its not fair or right. 

Sadly, we are no longer friends or talking which really sucks, because we talked a lot, had a lot in common. It's a shame something like this has come between our friendship. But I hope we will sort this out. 

You cannot force your feelings onto someone else, that's not how it works! 

Love yah 

Isthataredherring 

Carrot Cake Recipe

I love carrot cake, and with this simple recipe so will you.

Ingredients 
250g self-raising flour
2 teaspoons of ground cinnamon
400g caster sugar
350ml vegetable oil
350g grated carrot
optional
120g chopped walnuts

Icing 
140g soft margarine (I use dairy free)
350g icing sugar
2 teaspoons of vanilla extract/flavouring

Method

• Preheat the oven to 180C/ gas mark 4 and grease 2, 20cm cake tins.
• In a big bowl, stir together all the dry ingredients (self-raising flour, cinnamon and sugar)
• In a separate bowl beat the oil and eggs together, until combined.
• Slowly mix the eggs and oil into the flour, sugar and cinnamon until smooth and combined fully. 
• Then add the grated carrot to the mixture, and mix until smooth and fully combined. 
• Once the mixture is combined, divide equally into the 2 cake tins. 
• Bake for 25-30 mins in the preheated oven. Test the cake with a skewer and if it comes out clean it is baked
• Once the cake is baked, leave to cool in the tins, once fully cooled removes from tins.
• Whilst cake is cooling, make the icing.
• simply mix the margarine, icing sugar and vanilla extract together until smooth and creamy. 
• Once the cakes are cool, layer the cakes, with a layer of icing in-between each layer.
• Top with a thin layer of icing and serve.... with a cup of tea is advised
• Enjoy

 

The finished product

little discalmer... this is my finished cake it is a lovely picture courtesy of Google Images... I have lost the picture of the cake I have made! Silly me. Sorry... Nevertheless the cake was amazing and didn't last long in my house as it was eaten so quickly.

I hope you try this very simple recipe.

Love yah
IsThataRedHerring

21 books because I am 21.

I got the idea whilst watching a Youtube video, and thought hey that's not a bad idea, I love to read so why not read 21 books, each year of my life. So I had a think and wasn't sure what books to read, but I have a few ideas. After searching the internet for a few ideas as well, I came up with my list... I have come with with a list of 21 books (Okay some are series but I've counted them as 1). This list is not final and most certainly is not all of the books I hope to read this year, but these are the ones I am hoping to read. Even if I do not like the book I will make sure I get through it. I will do a book review of each book as well and will warn you if their will be a spoiler of two but I am hoping there will not be. I hope you like this idea as much as I do and I hope it inspires you to do the same. Reading is so important and it can be fun. So here is my choice for now:

1. A book I have been meaning to read, which never got round to. 
2. A book I have borrowed from a friend
• Daughter by Jane Shemilt
3. An auto biography, I have never read an autobiography before!
• More Fool Me by Stephen Fry
4. The Year I met you and How to fall in love by Cecilia Ahern
5. A book I started but never finished 
• Paper Towns by John Green 
6. My favourite childhood book, 
• Frozen Fire by Tim Bowler 
7. How to be a Women by Catlin Moran 
8. A book I had to read at school
• Of mice and Men by John Steinbeck
9. A book I didn't like and never finished
• Dracula 
10. A new series
• Divergent, Insurgent and Allegiant by Veronica Roth  
11. Looking for Alaska by John Green
12. A book recommended by a close friend The shock of the Fall by Nathan Filer
13. A book that has been recommended by Youtubers Red Rising trilogy by Pierce Brown 
14. This book is the second book int he The Rosie series The Rosie Effect by Graeme Simsion 
15. You're the one that I want by Giovanna Flectcher 
16. The Hobbit by J.R.R  Tolkien 
17. A book that I have been meaning to finish 
• Finale by Becca Fitzpatrick 
18. The beginning of a series you are unsure about
• Uglies by Scott Westerfeld 
19. Elanor and Park by Rainbow Rowell 
20. A heart warmer book
• One Million Lovely Letters by Jodi Ann Bickley 
21. A book that was made into a film 
• Philomena by Martin Sixsmith 

I am currently reading Paper Towns by John Green and aim to finish it this week, I should easily do it, and that will be book one done already.

Love yah

IsThataRedHerring

Homemade Chicken Wrapped in Bacon, with Stuffing and full roast dinner.

This is one of my favourite dishes to cook and to eat. It is a simple dish to cook and prepare, can be done hours or even the night before. It is very filling and can be used as a main, roast dinner, with past or rice or in a sandwich, whatever you want. This recipe is for 4 chicken breasts, so a family of 4.

Ingredients. 
4 medium sized chicken breast (defrosted or fresh)
12 rashers of bacon, I use un-smocked and 3 rashers per breast
A medium box of stuffing, I use Paxo sage and onion stuffing

Method

1. Lay three rashers of bacon together on a chopping board, so they look like this:

    2. Prepare the stuffing, once done, spread stuffing over the bacon, make it even, do not go all the way to the edges, keep it in the middle. 

    3. Place the chicken breast on the stuffing, and warp the bacon around the chicken.

    4. Repeat with other breasts (or only do one), place into an oven dish and cook on 180C or gas man 4, for 35-40 mins 

    5. I serve mine with roast potatoes and a selection

of veg, it always goes down well and I always get good compliments.

Just a serving suggestion 

Enjoy this recipe as much as I do.

Love yah 

IsThataRedHerring